YOU’VE BEEN ASKING YOURSELF WHETHER TO STAY OR GO FOR YEARS
It’s time to get honest with yourself.
You don’t need another person telling you what you should do.
You need a way to look honestly at what is true - and trust yourself to make the decision.
You’ve rehearsed the conversation a hundred times.
You know who you’d call first.
You’ve made the decision over and over in your head.
Then he does something nice on a Tuesday night and suddenly you’re questioning everything.
Again.
Maybe it’s not that bad.
Maybe I’m overreacting.
Maybe things really will change.
What if I leave and regret it?
What if he finds someone else and I’m stuck being single?
What if she’s prettier-skinnier-more fun than me?
And you’re right back where you started.
Another year gone.
You aren’t confused about how you feel.
You know how you feel.
You feel hurt.
You feel disappointed.
hopeful.
angry.
afraid.
and sometimes loved.
You’ve felt those emotions about the same man.
And right now, you feel you’re just surviving.
And that’s why the advice you’ve been given to “trust your gut” isn’t enough.
Your gut is sending a feeling.
But a feeling isn’t a fact.
In a long-term relationship, your feelings are tangled up with love, fear, habit, hope, sunk cost, and everything that happened last week.
So, when your feelings change, your decision can change with them.
The facts don’t change.
You don’t need to stop feeling.
You need to stop letting your feelings to do the job of facts.
There’s a way to make a difficult decision.
It’s called the Trivium method.
It’s a structure for thinking that gives you a way to examine what is true before you decide what to do about it.
And I discovered how powerful it could be because I needed it myself.
I wasn’t looking for a relationship philosophy.
I wasn’t trying to become an expert.
I was a woman who needed to trust my own judgement when deciding to stay or to go.
So, I used the method.
And I followed it all the way through.
Under fluorescent lights at Walmart.
I was looking for protein bars….
….and I watched the man I thought would be my forever person forget I was standing there when his compulsion took over.
I whispered to myself:
“I’m done.”
But something was different this time.
There was no panic.
No pit in my stomach.
No need to explain away what I witnessed.
I had been using the method and trusted my own conclusion.
The method didn’t tell me to leave.
It helped me understand why I was making the decision I made.
And that difference matters.
Because I’m not here to tell you whether you should stay or go.
I’m giving you the method I used to make my own decision.
Logic first
This is the part that changes everything.
You’ll have all the evidence. The facts.
All of it.
Not the kind that supports what you want to believe.
You’ll see what’s actually happening.
Emotions second
Your feelings aren’t the enemy.
They’re just not allowed to create facts.
Your emotions have been in control or you wouldn’t be here.
And something happens when you do the method.
You stop making the same decision over and over.
You’ll know why you’re making it and trust yourself with it.
Your emotions may still fluctuate.
You might miss him if you choose to leave.
But not as much as you will if he chooses to exit because you procrastinated being honest with yourself.
You’ll wish things would have been different.
That’s being human.
But you don’t have to start the entire argument again every time you feel something different.
The evidence you honestly examine will be there.
And that gives you something you’ve been missing for a long time:
Self-trust.
Not the belief that you’ve always made the perfect decision.
Not the belief that you’ll never doubt yourself again.
Something much more solid:
The trust that you can face the truth, make an honest decision, and stand behind it.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a relationship coach.
I don’t pretend to be.
I’m a woman who used this method when I needed it.
I know what it’s like to be emotionally invested in someone and need to step back and look at the evidence.
I know what it’s like to want something to be true.
And I know what it feels like when you finally stop arguing with what you already know.
That’s why I created The Logic of Love.
Not to give you, my answer.
To give you a way to find yours.
What you aquire:
The Logic of Love is a practical, actionable guide using the Trivium to work through your own decision.
This isn’t a book you’re supposed to read, nod along with, and put on a shelf with all the other books that could have changed your life.
You do the method.
You’ll be guided through the process so you can examine your situation for yourself.
All you need is:
The Logic of Love
A notebook.
A pen.
And the willingness to be honest with yourself.
That’s it.
This isn’t just a relationship tool.
The relationship may be the reason you need this book.
But the way of thinking is yours to use for life.
Once you understand how to examine evidence before allowing emotion to determine your conclusion, you have a method to use whenever life puts a difficult decision in front of you.
Relationships.
Friendships.
Work.
Money.
Major life changes.
You aren’t just learning how to make this decision.
You’re learning how to trust yourself when decisions are hard.
You don’t need me to tell you whether to stay or go.
You need to be able to trust yourself enough to decide.
Maybe your honest conclusion is to leave.
Maybe it’s to stay.
Maybe it’s to stay only if something changes.
Maybe you realize you need more evidence before you decide.
The Trivium doesn’t choose for you.
That’s it’s brilliance.
You do the work.
You examine the facts.
You face what is true.
You consider how you feel about it.
And then you make your choice.
Your choice.
Stop circling the same decision.
You don’t need another opinion.
You don’t need another person telling you what she would do.
You don’t need to spend another year in limbo.
You need a method you can trust.
The Logic of Love
The method to make the decision - and trust yourself with it.
$97
Immediate digital download.
Work through it at your own pace with a notebook and a pen.
You do the work.
You make the decision.
You trust yourself with it.
The Logic of Love.
There are no promises about the decision you’ll make. The method is yours to use; the work - and the choice - are yours.