YOU’VE BEEN ASKING YOURSELF WHETHER TO STAY OR GO FOR YEARS
The method to make the decision - and trust yourself with it.
You don’t need another person telling you what you should do.
You need a way to look honestly at what is true - and trust yourself to make the decision.
You’ve rehearsed the conversation in the car.
You know which friend you’d call first.
You’ve made the decision a dozen times in your head.
Then he does something kind on a Tuesday night and suddenly you’re questioning everything.
Maybe it’s not that bad.
Maybe I’m overreacting.
Maybe things really will change.
Maybe I’m the problem.
What if I leave and regret it?
And you’re right back where you started.
Another year gone.
You aren’t confused about how you feel.
You know how you feel.
You’ve felt hurt.
You’ve felt disappointed.
You’ve felt hopeful.
You’ve felt angry.
You’ve felt afraid.
You’ve felt loved.
You’ve probably felt several of those emotions about the same man.
And that’s exactly why, “just trust your gut” isn’t enough.
Your gut can send you an important signal.
But a signal isn’t a verdict.
In a long-term relationship, your feelings are tangled up with love, fear, history, habit, hope, sunk cost, and everything that happened last week.
So, when your feelings change, your decision can change with them.
The evidence doesn’t.
You don’t need to stop feeling.
You need to stop asking your feelings to do the job of facts.
There’s another way to make a difficult decision.
It’s called the Trivium method.
It’s a classical structure for thinking that gives you a way to examine what is true before you decide what to do about it.
And I discovered how powerful it could be because I needed it myself.
I wasn’t looking for a relationship philosophy.
I wasn’t trying to become an expert.
I was a woman who needed to know whether I could trust my own judgement.
So, I used the method.
And I followed it all the way through.
I used it under fluorescent lights at Walmart.
I was looking for protein bars.
And I watched the man I thought would be my forever person behave as though he forgot I was even standing there.
I whispered:
“I’m done.”
But something was different this time.
There was no panic.
No pit in my stomach.
No frantic need to explain it away.
I had finally looked at enough evidence honestly that I could trust my own conclusion.
The method didn’t tell me to leave.
It helped me understand why I was making the decision I made.
And that difference matters.
Because I’m not here to tell you whether you should stay or go.
I’m giving you the method I used to make my own decision.
Logic first
This is the part that changes everything.
You begin by gathering the evidence.
All of it.
Not just the evidence that supports what you already want to believe.
Not just the good days.
Not just the bad days.
And especially not just what happened most recently.
You look at the patterns.
You look at what actually happened.
You stop explaining away what you don’t want to see.
You separate what you know from what you feel.
Then comes the part most people get backwards:
You bring your emotions back in.
You ask:
How do I feel about what I know now to be true?
Your emotions aren’t the enemy.
They aren’t ignored.
They aren’t pushed aside.
They’re simply no longer allowed to create the facts.
Logic goes first. Your emotions get their proper place. Then you decide.
And something happens when you do this honestly.
You stop having to make the same decision over and over.
Because you know why you’re making it.
Your emotions may still fluctuate.
You may still have difficult days.
You may still miss someone.
You may still wonder what might have happened if you’d chosen differently.
That’s being human.
But you don’t have to start the entire argument again every time you feel something different.
The evidence you honestly examined is still there.
And that gives you something you may have been missing for a long time:
Self-trust.
Not the belief that you’ll always make the perfect decision.
Not the belief that you’ll never doubt yourself again.
Something much more solid:
The trust that you can face the truth, make an honest decision, and stand behind it.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a relationship coach.
And I’m not going to pretend to be.
I’m a woman who used this method when I needed it.
I know what it’s like to be emotionally invested in someone and still need to step back and look at the evidence.
I know what it’s like to want something to be true.
And I know what it feels like when you finally stop arguing with what you already know.
That’s why I created The Logic of Love.
Not to give you, my answer.
To give you a way to find yours.
What you’re getting
The Logic of Love is a practical, actionable guide to using the Trivium to work through your own decision.
This isn’t a book you’re supposed to read, nod along with, and put on a shelf.
You work it.
You’ll be guided through the process so you can take your own situation and examine it for yourself.
All you need is:
The Logic of Love
A notebook.
A pen.
And the willingness to be honest with yourself.
That’s it.
This isn’t just a relationship tool.
The relationship may be the reason you pick up this book.
But the way of thinking is yours to keep.
Once you understand how to examine evidence before allowing emotion to determine your conclusion, you have a method you can use whenever life puts a difficult decision in front of you.
Relationships.
Friendships.
Work.
Money.
Major life changes.
Any situation where what you want to be true is competing with what you know to be true.
You aren’t just learning how to make this decision.
You’re learning how to trust yourself when decisions are hard.
You don’t need me to tell you whether to stay or go.
You need to be able to trust yourself enough to decide.
Maybe your honest conclusion is to leave.
Maybe it’s to stay.
Maybe it’s to stay only if something changes.
Maybe you realize you need more evidence before you decide.
The Trivium doesn’t choose for you.
That’s it’s strength.
You do the work.
You examine the evidence.
You face what is true.
You consider how you feel about it.
And then you make your choice.
Your choice.
Stop circling the same decision.
You don’t need another opinion.
You don’t need another person telling you what she would do.
You don’t need to spend another year waiting for your feelings to settle down enough to make a decision.
You need a method you can trust.
The Logic of Love
The method to make the decision - and trust yourself with it.
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There are no promises about the decision you will make. The method is yours to use; the work - and the choice - are yours.